Children and Divorce
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How children and divorce are linked

When it comes to the wellness of your family, nothing makes the process more difficult than going through a divorce.

Even an amicable divorce can be hard on everyone involved, but when it comes to divorce and kids it is an entirely different ballgame.

Here are some of the typical mistakes to avoid to be sure that you children's mental and physical health is not affected by your warring with your ex-spouse.

Children Are Not Messengers

One of the things that often happen with children and divorce is that children become the go-between for the parents. This puts them under an unnecessary amount of emotional stress. Instead, try using emails as a quick way to communicate. When the need arises to speak with your ex-spouse in person, keep it short and to the point. Try to take the high road in conversations and avoid getting angry.

Children Are Not Therapists

Another thing that happens with children and divorce is that one or both parents have the tendency to use the child as a therapist. Your child is not the appropriate person to talk to about how angry you are with your ex or how unfair the divorce details are. Talking to them about these things can be mentally and emotionally damaging for the child. They are a child, not another adult, and cannot be expected to understand what you are going through.

Try To Understand Your Child

Another problem with children and divorce is that many times children become “lost” and feel like no one understands what they are going through. Either they are expected to make up for the missing adult in the relationship, or they feel like they have to be the person that you tell them to be.

Try to get your children to talk about their feelings in their words. If they want, have them write things down to share with your ex. Avoid the temptation to tell them what to say. You do not even have to have a solution every time, just be a sounding board for their frustrations.

Do Not Use Your Children As A Way To Spy On Your Ex

Another problem that occurs with children and divorce is that parents do not know how to handle the times when children are with their ex. It is just as bad to say nothing at all as it is to ask too many questions.

Both will stress your child out and have a negative impact on his or her wellness. So treat the visit with your ex the same way you would treat a visit to grandma's – ask a few general questions and let it go.

Acknowledge Your Mistakes

When it comes to children and divorce, there is a good likelihood that there will be some emotional and mental damage done, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Remember to apologize to your kids, being clear on what you did wrong and how you will change. Work out a signal between the two of you for your child to use if you start becoming too harsh in your comments about your ex. And remember to love them for who they are.

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